Myths and realities about sexuality

Have you heard any of them?

Universally speaking, sex and sexuality have been topics of great interest and controversy throughout human history. For decades they have been surrounded by beliefs and taboos that have varied significantly between cultures and times, having a profound impact on how we understand and live our sexuality today. These myths and superstitions have formed ideas regarding sexuality which have been transmitted from generation to generation and have undoubtedly affected our current perception of what sex, sexuality and eroticism are.

Common Myths and Beliefs about Sex

  1. Size does matter
    • Reality: Although some studies suggest that penis size may influence the perception of pleasure in some people, most research indicates that this is not necessarily true, since most pleasure zones in the vagina and anus are not connected. at a lot of depth. Other factors such as communication, intimacy, and sexual skills are also important for a satisfying sexual experience.
  2. Women don’t enjoy sex as much as men
    • Reality: This belief is a myth. Women can experience as much sexual pleasure as men. All people have testosterone and estrogen in different amounts, so sexual desire varies from one person to another. The difference in the perception of pleasure may be due to cultural and social factors that influence how women express their sexuality.
  3. First sex is always painful for women
    • Reality: While some women may experience discomfort or pain during their first sexual experience, this is not a general rule. We must take into consideration that relaxation and adequate lubrication can make the first experience pleasant.
  4. Masturbation is harmful to health
    • Reality: Masturbation is a normal and healthy sexual practice. It helps people understand their own body, reduces stress and has no known negative effects on physical or mental health.
  5. Sex during pregnancy is dangerous for the baby
    • Reality: In most cases, sex during pregnancy is safe and does not affect the baby. However, it is always important to consult a doctor to ensure that there are no specific conditions that require caution.

Sexuality and cultures

Each culture has its norms and beliefs, especially when it comes to sex, eroticism and sexuality. Beliefs on these topics vary enormously between different cultures and according to time. Here we present some cultural perspectives:

  1. Western culture
    • Until today, sexuality has been considered a taboo topic in many Western societies. However, the sexual revolution of the 1960s and 1970s led to greater openness and acceptance of various forms of sexuality, such as homosexuality and bisexuality. Despite this, myths and stigmas still exist, particularly around sexuality education and reproductive health.
  1. Hindu Culture
    • Historically, sex has been seen in Hindu culture as a form of procreation and a way to find spiritual pleasure. The “Kama Sutra”, an ancient Hindu text, is known worldwide for its detailed exploration of sexual techniques and its focus on pleasure and emotional connection between couples.
  1. Islamic Culture
    • Religious law (Sharia) regulates sexuality in many Islamic societies. Sex without marriage is generally prohibited, and modesty and privacy are highly valued. However, the sexual pleasure of both parties is recognized and valued within marriage.
  1. African culture
    • Beliefs about sex in Africa vary greatly between tribes and countries. Virginity and purity are highly valued in some cultures, but sexuality may be celebrated more openly in others. In certain regions, polygamous marriages and sexual initiation rites are common.
  1. Chinese culture
    • Chinese culture has always valued sexual restraint and restraint. However, sexuality is discussed as a way to improve health and longevity in ancient Taoist texts, such as the “Su Nu Jing.” Modernization and Western influence have made the discussion of sexuality in contemporary China more open.

Reality vs. popular beliefs

  1. Is the G Spot there or not?
    • Fact: Although many still question the existence of the G-spot. Studies have confirmed its existence, many women report experiencing intense pleasure when stimulating certain areas in the front of the vagina.
  2. Sex serves as cardio
    • Reality: Sex can definitely be a form of exercise, increasing the heart rate contributing to the burning of calories, however it does not mean that it should replace a regular exercise routine. It’s just a more fun and creative way to do cardio.
  3. Is female ejaculation real?
    • Reality: Female ejaculation is as real as you and me. In fact, some women experience the release of translucent fluid during orgasm. Although it is not 100% of the cases or in all sexual encounters, ejaculatory discharge in women does exist.
  4. The female viagra
    • Myth: There is no “female Viagra” as such. However, there are treatments available that can help increase libido and sexual desire in women, although they work differently than Viagra, they are natural and promote energy in women. Among these we can mention

When beliefs transcend and reach the present

Family education, religion, literature and the media have transmitted ideas and beliefs about sex from generation to generation. These beliefs have had a significant impact on our understanding of sexuality, as well as our sexual attitudes and behaviors.

  • Family education: Many parents teach their children their beliefs about sex through conversation or example. Attitudes toward sexuality acquired at home can have a lasting impact on how people manage their own sexual experiences.
  • Religion: Religious teachings often set strict rules about how to behave sexually. These norms can affect social attitudes and public policies toward issues such as virginity, marriage, and sexual orientation.
  • Literature and media: The representation of sex in literature and media has changed over time, reflecting and often challenging cultural norms. Public attitudes towards sex have been fundamentally influenced by erotic novels, films and television.

Myths and beliefs about sex are diverse and complex, reflecting the various cultural, social and personal influences that have shaped our understanding of sex. Although some beliefs have true roots, many others are derived from the collective imagination and the cultural norms that have been imposed. To dismantle myths and promote a healthier, more realistic understanding of sex, comprehensive sexuality education and an openness to discussing sexuality honestly and without prejudice is essential.